Today is International Women’s Day.
Toward the end of last year, with all we learned about Harvey Weinstein and the #metoo, #timesup movements, I really made a choice to educate and immerse myself in understanding more about women’s right and feminism. Leave it to me to have celebrity gossip drive my educational path.
I am lucky that my cousin, Temma, is well versed in women’s right and women’s studies and she has sort of taken me under her wing to educate me.
So because I’m more aware, more woke, I think this year’s IWD means that much more to me.
Women are not only strong and beautiful but we are vulnerable, impressionable and thought-leaders.
We have the power and confidence to make our own moves, be girl bosses and lift up other women.
Someone who has always held these standards has been my mama.
She is an incredible human and woman. And I could dedicate an entire novel to expressing what she means to me but for today I’m going to sum up five of the most important lessons she has shared with me.
These have truly helped shape my life, give me faith and confidence to pursue my insane goals and be a constant reminder that no matter where you are in life, you are OK and getting through it.
I hope that on this International Women’s Day these little life notes inspire you and uplift you to be the best woman you can be.
You only have this one true life so embrace it and be grateful for every day. Every day is a new day to design the life that you want to create. This is something that my mum always drilled in to my brain, especially as someone who lives with depression. Not every day will be perfect. Not every day will be a win. But you have every day, a new day, to make the most of it and embrace the opportunity. Life is a glass half full if you allow it to be. Appreciate it as such.
There is nothing wrong with feeling lost it’s an opportunity to reflect and learn more about who you truly are. My mum is such a spiritual person and typically believes that if you’re at a point in your life where you don’t feel good about it or have an unwavering sense of discomfort with what you’re doing, chances are the universe is trying to tell you something. If you feel lost or like you have lost a sense of yourself, take some time to meditate, write down your feelings and just think about how you feel. Reflection drives self-discovery which ultimately helps us grow and change. While these might not be the most pleasant feelings, use them to invest in you.
Failure is never negative, it’s a lesson in how to try at something. Have you ever heard the quote, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new”? This is exactly what my mum feels life is all about. What is the purpose of having this one true life if you don’t try at anything? Where is the excitement or lesson in playing it safe? Perhaps this comes from being married to an entrepreneur all her life but how can we truly succeed in something we want if we don’t attempt to go for it? It’s not how many times you fail, it’s that you get back up. Try at something. You might fail; you might fly, but either way you’re learning.
Vaseline is a moisturizer, highlighter stick and lip balm. You can use it for EVERYTHING. My skin woes have been well-documented on the blog but before the breakouts, before the beauty vlogs – Vaseline was there. I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup when I was younger, so my mum showed me how Vaseline could be used instead. Whether it was as lip gloss or over my eyelids for a little sheen or on the ends of my lashes to make them look longer, Vaseline was a magic product. I still use it now every night on my lips, sometimes I blend it with blush to make a shimmery cheek and when my skin is really dry you better believe it’s going all over to wake up with hydration. I don’t know if my mum invented this or Tyra Banks did, but it’s a great trick and something you should all bookmark and try.
Love and forgiveness go hand-in-hand. There is no benefit to holding on to bad energy so forgive to open up your heart and spread love. Forgiveness is really f-cking hard. I know. Sometimes it feels near impossible. I’ve had my share of forgive and be forgiven scenarios: enough to know that my mum is right here. It is really hard to give love and feel love when you’re holding hate in your heart. Learning to accept the wrong, forgive and let go, opens your heart and allows your heart to be open to more love. It might sound cheesy or fluffy but it is fundamentally true. We all feel love and are able to give more love when we have a happy heart and positive energy radiating from within. So learn to forgive, talk to someone, Google how to do it, but work on it. Life is so much lighter when you let it go.
If you didn’t think my mama was an OG before, I really hope you do now. Those are great f-cking lessions and I swear I’m a better person because of them.
What have the women in your life taught you? I would love to know!